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Family Life Inspiration

Written by Super User. Posted in Devotions

VISION:  TO HAVE EVERY FAMILY AN INSPIRATION FOR PURPOSEFUL LIVING

A dialogue and learning platform for interactive discussion on family life

 

fli logoFamily Life Inspiration is about having inspirational families that motivate every family member for purposeful living. So I am delighted that as you read this, you will be inspired to take your place proactively in your family and begin making a difference. A difference can be made at any level really. Good relationships can be changed to better ones. Bad relationships can also be changed to good. The change can come from one individual who decides to stop expecting others to act and take responsibility and then take action. That individual can be you.

The greatest relationship killer is casting blame on another when there is a relationship challenge, or a stagnancy. Children can easily say, its my mother's problem. If only she can change. Or a sibling can say, it is my brother. If only he could stop being angry. In the meantime, the whole family can be pointing fingers at one another. This will not give the people involved a solution. But take responsibility and take action. The Bible in Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." So you can take action and make a difference.

Money and Wealth Devotions

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in Devotions

 

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Money and Wealth

Your 40 day devotions and guide to business, material and financial success

Why you should read this book:

  • This book provides inspiration and guidance in matters of money and wealth
  • It offers practical advice about your finances
  • It reaffirms your belief that God will guide you to financial success
  • It has over 220 biblical quotes from the bible regarding money and wealth
  • This book has 40 inspirational quotes by famous people regarding money and success
  • It has 40 important devotions that should be read on a daily basis that will change your life
  • It has 40 practical application sections that allow you to write down your financial issues, so that you can begin your journey of introspection
  • This book is useful in both your business finances and your personal finances
  • This book will help you manage your wealth better, and to help others prosper with you
  • This book will provide guidance to help you get out of bad debt
  • It will help you understand why God is so important in your life and that He can grant favour in your life to prosper you in both your business and personal life
  • This book will help you become a better person by enriching your life and soul and bring you closer to God

Power Time

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in Devotions

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POWER TIME Daily Devotions


is a structured daily devotion of a Christian topic that aims to :

  • motivate
  • inspire
  • uplift
  • energise
  • increase your spiritual level
  • get you closer to the lord Jesus
  • increase your world and spiritual knowledge
  • and get you thinking and praying more.


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Contact Agent Shalom (on +44 7830 338743) to get yourself on our POWER TIME Whats App GROUP.
Welcome to POWER TIME and enjoy.

AS BABES, DESIRE THE SINCERE MILK OF THE WORD

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

AS BABES, DESIRE THE SINCERE MILK OF THE WORD
That you may grow thereby.

#669/2016 for 08 April 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION

BIBLE READING: 
Ezra 7:10
Psalms 42:1
1 Peter 2:2.
Deuteronomy 6:6-8
2 Timothy 2:15
2 Corinthians 4:13
Joshua 1:8

When babies are born, doctors and midwives pat them at the back so they can cry, and thus start breathing through the lungs. 

Soon afterwards, the baby is brought to the mother where she instinctively starts sucking milk from her.

Well, you no longer need mother's milk to grow.

A PERSON THAT HAS FRIENDS

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

A PERSON THAT HAS FRIENDS
Must show himself friendly

#670/2016 for 09 April 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION

BIBLE READING: 
Proverbs 18:24
Matthew 11:19

Do you remember your best preschool friend?

For this writer best preschool friend was Gladman Chimonyo. 

With Gladman playing was from sunrise to sunset and in the evening there were exchanges of dinnertime relish, risking getting beaten by mothers from the two families that stayed next door in a communal compound. 

ENTER LOVE

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

Enter LoveENTER LOVE
Accompanied by Faith and Hope

#648/2016 for 18 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
Luke 6:27,35-37 and 10:27-28
John 13:34-35
1 Corinthians 13:13

 

The world's major currencies operate under threat of fake notes.

Criminals print notes that look more genuine than the actuals.

But they cannot fake true love.

Apostle Paul spent most of 1 Corinthians 13 describing this true love because the Corinthians were a church with many challenges.

He had to show them a more excellent way - the way of love which, with attendant grace and mercy, fulfilled the Old Testament way of law, justice and judgement.

He concluded monologue by saying, "Now abideth faith, hope and love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." (1 Corinthians 13:13).

God's word reckons that if one is born again, and has Jesus as Lord and Saviour, they will have no problem loving other Christians.

WHAT DID THE LORD JESUS SAY LAST?

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

Great CommissionWHAT DID THE LORD JESUS SAY LAST?
Go Ye......preach the Gospel!

#644/2016 for 14 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
Mark 16:15-18 KJV

 

 

A person's last words are unforgettable and are viewed with interests by the followers and loved ones. 

Take time today to look at the last words of the Lord Jesus Christ.

He said, "Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature." (Mark 16:15 KJV). 

In simple terms, his commission was, "Go Preach the gospel."

This must constitute the major attention and time of every believer. 

ALMIGHTY GOD

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

God is EverythingALMIGHTY GOD
Is everything to you.

#645/2016 for 15 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
Psalms 23:1-5, 28:7-8
Isaiah 40:11
1 Corinthians 3:10
John 1:14

In the 23rd Psalm, David starts by remarking that God was everything to him, and he lacked nothing.

This brings to memory the song, "To me he's become everything." by Donna Carline,
with link given later on. 

She sings, 
"Some had made Jesus a game that they play, 
to other’s a song that they sing, 
but since I met Jesus I’m happy to say 
to me he’s become everything. 

He’s my future my past the first and the last, 
to me he’s become everything."

DAILY SURRENDER TO GOD, HIS WORD AND HOLY SPIRIT

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

Surrendering to GODDAILY SURRENDER TO GOD, HIS WORD AND HOLY SPIRIT
Leads to you changing from glory to glory

#646/2016 for 16 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
Romans 8:1
Philippians 1:6
2 Corinthians 3:18

 

Skin and body care industry is booming business in modern society as women daily face mirrors to adorn and groom themselves. 

Even for men, gone are the days of the unkempt Strongman Samson or unshaven Priest Aaron, as they too take care of themselves better. 

May the good saints pardon our apparently irreverent descriptions of them! 

SPOT A NEED

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

spot a needSPOT A NEED 
And be the one to fill it.

#647/2016 for 17 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
Luke 6:38
Acts 20:35
2 Corinthians 9:7
Isaiah 58:4-96-7

 

SELF AND FAMILY HAPPINESS

In the Heiress Films documentary, "Making Families Happy", a group of elite psychologists sets out to help three Australian families as they navigate their way through a world-first experiment to make them happier.

One strategy they used to make the families happy was to let them spent time passing out flowers to people at the High Street mall. 

They discovered that helping others was associated with high levels of positive mental and emotional health. 

"Showing kindness and giving things helps the giver to be happier and reduce stress and discomfort tendencies", they concluded. 

LIVE IN LOVE, GOD'S POWER & SOUND MIND

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

power, love, sound mindLIVE IN LOVE, GOD'S POWER & SOUND MIND
Instead of hatred, weakness and fear

#641/2016 for 11 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
2 Timothy 1:7
1 Corinthians 13:13
Acts 1:8
Proverbs 29:25

What gets you going on a daily basis?

Is it food, work, pleasure, entertainment of God's word?

Everything else gives limited strength to live, the word of God gives you Love, Holy Ghost Power and soundness of mind which is necessary when problems arise. 

Instructing young Timothy, Apostle Paul said, "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." (2 Timothy 1:7 KJV).

THE PRAYER OF AGREEMENT WITH OTHERS

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

Prayer of AgreementTHE PRAYER OF AGREEMENT WITH OTHERS
Are effective always. 

#640/2016 for 10 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
Matthew 18:19
Galatians 6:2
1 Corinthians 1:10-11 
1 Thessalonians 5:25

The greatest power and strength of a group is its power to pray.

To get through what you’re going through, you need to get other people to pray with you or for you. 

This is easiest when you’re in a small group. 

When you’re going through a tough time and you’re not in a small prayer group, you are vulnerable and unprotected.

You may not have the strength that people in a small group do because you don’t have people praying for you. 

The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 1:11, “You are helping us by praying for us. Then many people will give thanks because God has graciously answered so many prayers for our safety” (NLT). 

Another version says, "You also help us by your prayers for us. Then many people will thank God on our behalf because of the favor shown us through the prayers of many." (2 Corinthians 1:11 -ISV).

There is additional power in group prayer that is not there when you just pray for yourself. 

Because of that Jesus said, “If any two agree as touching anything it shall be done” and “Where two or more are gathered in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” (Matthew 18:19 KJV).

Paul appealed for group prayers. 

He said, "Brethren, pray for us." (1 Thessalonians 5:25 KJV).

He emphasises the request by saying, "Finally, brethren, pray for us, that the word of the Lord may have free course, and be glorified, even as it is with you." (2 Thessalonians 3:1 KJV).

The Bible says in Galatians 6:2, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ” (NIV). What is the law of Christ? “Love your neighbor as yourself.” When you pray for other people, you are loving your neighbor as yourself. When they pray for you, they are loving you as themselves.

RECOMMENDED ACTION

Pray alone. That's good and encouraged.

Go further, pray with others.

Start with one or two prayer partners. Pray for each other.

Avoid talk and gossip circles, they sap spiritual energy. 

Develop strong prayer partnerships and prayer groups.

Take advantage of technology to pray with others. 

BIBLE VERSE TO MEDITATE ON:

"If two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven." 

(Matthew 18:19 KJV)

FOR MOST CHILDREN ITS "ME", "MINE" AND "NO".

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

When I was a ChildFOR MOST CHILDREN ITS "ME", "MINE" AND "NO".
But as they mature - It's Care for others.

#642/2016 for 12 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
1 Corinthians 13:11
Philippians 2:4-5
1 Corinthians 14:20

The documentary titled, "The secret lives of 4 to 6 year olds" has some astounding insights.

That is an age when futures are formed. 

Child Psychologists secretly observed the behaviour of 12 children playing together in a ground with teachers nearby allowing them to be free. 

Initially the children showed extensive selfish behaviour, insecurity and prejudice. 

They yelled, quarrelled, fought, cried, discriminated each other from various perspectives and cheated as well as lied heavily in different circumstances.

The most frequent word was, "No! no! no!"

After "no", the next most frequent word was, "Mine, mine, mine", which tied with, "Me, me, me!", as they haggled over space, toys, friends, respect and privileges. 

Let's leave Child Psychology alone and just learn something from it and from the Bible.

Apostle Paul wrote, "When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things." (1 Corinthians 13:11 KJV).

CAN A WOUNDED HEART BE HEALED?

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

CAN A WOUNDED HEART BE HEALED by JesusCAN A WOUNDED HEART BE HEALED?
Yes, By Jesus Christ!

#643/2016 for 13 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
Psalms 46, 61:1-2, 107:20, 143:
Matthew 11:28
Jeremiah 8:21-22

Hurts, heartaches and heartbreaks may come from self infliction, as you get into trouble because of your own errors, mistakes and fallibility.

Sometimes heartbreaks come from the rejection, derision, refusal, ridicule or dislike you may have witnessed in your early life or now. 

Do not worry.

No one will endeavour to mend broken hearts with sellotape and cheap strings.

The Master Surgeon General - JESUS CHRIST of Nazareth is there for that, having settled the medical and Heavenly Health Service bill with his blood.

GOD COMMANDS BLESSING ON YOU

Written by Mark Newstead. Posted in POWER TIME

GOD COMMANDS BLESSING ON YOU

As he does dew upon mountains

#639/2016 for 09 March 2016

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

BIBLE READING: 
Genesis 22:13-14
Psalm 16:5-6, 23:3, 133:1 & 3
James 1:6-8

Modern advancement deprives most inhabitants of the earth from enjoying seeing how God has ordained some mysteries of nature. 

Dew is one of the greatest wonders. 

Nightfall causes dew to fall from clear skies and waters dry lands to sustain nature when no rain is falling. 

It is as if God commands the dew to fall on the mountains.

God has commanded some blessings to fall on you.

FATE, FORTUNE OR FAITH?

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

Know God, not the future.

#494/2015 for 07 October 2015

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

 

BIBLE READING: 
Psalms 121:1-2
Deuteronomy 18:10, 
Leviticus 19:31, 
Acts 20:17
Exodus 22:18 and Isaiah 8:18
Colossians 1:17-18

 

MESSAGE

In Macbeth, Shakespeare's shortest tragedy, a brave Scottish general named Macbeth received a prophecy from a trio of witches that one day he will become King of Scotland. 

Consumed by ambition and spurred to action by his wife, Macbeth murdered King Duncan and took the throne for himself. 

Wrecked by subsequent guilt and paranoia, he became a tyrannical ruler and was forced to commit more and more murders to protect himself from enmity and suspicion. 

The bloodbath and consequent civil war swiftly took Macbeth and Lady Macbeth into the realms of arrogance, madness, and ultimately death.

What started as a casual prophecy by seemingly innocent fortune tellers led Macbeth into a trap of evil doing.

In the Bible King Saul is reported to have displeased God by consulting a witch. (1 Samuel 28:7-25).

WHEN AN OFFERING IS GIVEN - Part 2

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

God is honoured and worshipped

#495/2015 for 08 October 2015

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

 

BIBLE READING
Psalms 126:5-6
Proverbs 3:9-10
Malachi 3:9-12
2 Corinthians 6:19-20 & 8:5

 

MESSAGE

The Psalmist said, "They that sow in tears shall reap in joy. He that goeth forth and weepeth, bearing precious seed, shall doubtless come again with rejoicing, bringing his sheaves with him." (Psalm 126:5-6 KJV).

Ideally, God wants you to give joyfully and cheerfully.

However, you may sow in tears but you will rejoice during the harvest. (Ibid.)

WHEN AN OFFERING IS GIVEN - Part 1

Written by Peter Mukwena. Posted in POWER TIME

Tragedy is averted, and a harvest opportunity is set.

#493/2015 for 06 October 2015

POWER TIME WORD DAILY DEVOTION with Overseer Mukwena

 

BIBLE READING: 
Malachi 3:10-11
Genesis 22:16-17
2 Samuel 24:24-25
1 Kings 17:13-15
Philippians 4:15, 16-17 & 19).

 

MESSAGE

I trust you do not cringe inside when you see that topic - Tithes and Offerings.

Let your mind not rush to being taken from, robbed, fleeced or milked.

No!

PRAY FOR ONE ANOTHER!

Written by Doreen Mukwena. Posted in Family Life Inspiration

fli logoPRAY FOR ONE ANOTHER! One of the most powerful ways of healing and building relationships is to pray for one another. When we pray, though man may make his plans, it is the Lord's that will prevail. 
relationships is to pray for one another. God hears prayer and answers prayer. He is always faithful. Man may plan his way, but it is the Lords will that will prevail. 
James 5:16-18 KJV
[16] Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. [17] Elias was a man subject to like passions as we are, and he prayed earnestly that it might not rain: and it rained not on the earth by the space of three years and six months. [18] And he prayed again, and the heaven gave rain, and the earth brought forth her fruit.
Pray for God answers prayer!

New Year 2016

Written by Doreen Mukwena. Posted in Family Life Inspiration

fli logo2016 is a new year and it provides a new opportunity to begin again. Where one missed it in 2015, or you were disappointed, or failed, or gave up, the new year gives a chance to begin again. Failed expectations, unfulfilled dreams, disappointment, hurts are a cause of pain in families. If there is one thing that can stand in the way of one's beginning again on a fresh page, that is pain. Even if you begin, with pain hidden in the recesses of your soul, it becomes the filter through which you see life, you respond to relationships and take action. Pain is a negative factor that inhibits positive growth. Pain is like an uncovered sore on a limb, and it festers and worsens as time goes on. It hurts more and because you want to protect the pain, your responses and reflexes are governed by the pain. This is why a person who has been hurt and wounded in life can easily hurt also, unintentionally though, because they are seeking to protect their own wounds and their pain pervades all their actions. 
But do you want to stop the pain, in yourself and in others around you? The best way of dealing with pain is not to manage it, but heal it. The place for healing pain is by exposing it to the cross of Jesus. 

In Matthew 11:28, the Lord Jesus says, 'Come to me all you who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest....' 

Come and cast your burden on the cross, for Jesus cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7. He carried your pain 2000 years ago, and you don't need to carry it anymore. You may feel justified about carrying this pain because of the depth of the offence done against you. But remember, if you don't put down your pain, it hinders your own growth and clouds your perception. Lay your burdens and see Jesus, who is bigger that your burdens. It is in the reality of life's challenges that the power of the resurrected Christ is manifested. He will give you newness of life when you turn to Him, and you can begin the new year as a new you. 
Should you need healing from pain in your relationships, don't hesitate to get in touch with me. Please inbox me on Facebook. By Doreen Mukwena

Valentine Day

Written by Doreen Mukwena. Posted in Family Life Inspiration

fli logoValentine day came and went by. Some spouses were celebrated and others were not, maybe because of forgetfulness or not believing in a valentine day. But the important thing is that we still have one another as spouses. So lets continue and celebrate each other. Love must be celebrated daily. People must also be celebrated daily. Its not a one day affair. Daily make a point of surprising your spouses with something good. It could be something simple. But it is the thought that counts. A different thought, action and word daily takes out routine from your relationship. So do something different today and put a new energy into your relationship. Romans 12:10 says 'Love earnestly and outdo one another in doing good.'

Pressures of Today's World

Written by Doreen Mukwena. Posted in Family Life Inspiration

fli logoThe pressures of today's world and the demands and expectations on individuals affect family life and relationships in a big way. People work long hours, and also add study time to it such that the time one gets gets home, you are utterly exhausted. The best of our time is taken away by the imposed priorities of survival and personal achievement. And it seems these two, survival and personal achievement have taken top priority in people's lives. But closely following that in third place is technology. Most people resort to modern gadgets to relieve themselves from the pressure of work and learning. So once on their way home, they sit listening to music or hide their face into their phone and chat away with the whole world. And when they get home, they immediately switch on to their favorite TV channel. Little time is left for family except a few words to say good night, if that happens at all. So life goes on. And what going on in the relationship, people become more and more strangers by the day. 
So my encouragement today is:
Spend time with one another. Create time to have quality fellowship as a family, or as a couple. Eat together or play together. Take time to create conversation which is not only about home administration such as paying bills and attending to the children, or just asking children to do their homework etc. But talk about your attitudes and feelings about what is going on in your family, what your challenges you are facing together or individually and learn to carry each other's burdens. Seek to be kind hearted and tender and create an environment of affection, warmth and encouragement. Ephesians 4:32 says, 'Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another even as God for Christ sake has forgiven you.' And James 5:16 says,'Confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another that you may be healed.' This is how to prosper as a family, and to be in good health when you do these things. Improve on doing these things and you will succeed as families.

Kingpin of the Family

Written by Doreen Mukwena. Posted in Family Life Inspiration

fli logoThe kingpin of family, the small nucleus family is parents. Most parents love their children. But unfortunately parents are also not perfect though its difficulty for most parents to accept that. But don't be afraid to acknowledge where you mess up as parents. Just ask God to sincerely guide and help you by His Holy Spirit. But also learn to acknowledge where your own parents messed up—then forgive your parents for being human. 

  • Forgive them for the ways they hurt you. 
  • Forgive them for the times you felt ignored, slighted, or disrespected. 
  • Forgive them for the days that they were too distracted by their own problems to meet your needs. 
  • Forgive them for the times they embarrassed you in front of your friends. 
  • Forgive them for the times that they leaned on you instead of letting you lean on them. 
  • Forgive for the moments they weren't there for you, when they forgot to pick you up from school or didn't make it to your big school event. 
  • Forgive them for the devastating things, like abandonment, abuse, and addiction. 

Yes, that kind of forgiveness is so hard to do, but remember these words I once heard: "Forgiveness doesn't make the other person right, it just makes you free." 
Jesus put it another way. "Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. . . . Do to others as you would have them do to you" (Luke 6:27–28, 31). 

When we refuse to forgive, that past offense becomes an invisible cord connecting us to the person who did us wrong. It attaches us to that pain. It keeps us plugged in to the bitterness and anger and resentful feelings. 

We must cut that cord or we'll never be free. We'll never more forward. 

With forgiveness, we empty the hurt pockets in our lives. We release judgment. We bring all accounts back to zero. We offer it unconditionally, without worrying about remorse or responsibility. 

Regardless of the offense, the only thing we can control is our part in offering forgiveness. So forgive your parents. Say their names aloud and pray blessings over them, like Jesus commanded. Do it every day if you have to. 

This kind of forgiveness is the secret to emotional and spiritual freedom, and the only way to truly make peace with your past.

Love Family Members

Written by Doreen Mukwena. Posted in Family Life Inspiration

fli logoThe bottom line about family and family members is love them, appreciate them and cherish each one of them. God's divine purpose for family is to become a support system for love, care and encouragement for each other so that each person becomes the best that God made them to be. So, if you family member, mom, dad, siblings or child is being wayward and causing dysfunction in the family, that is the where your support system role is called for. The challenge is how can you love, care and motivate them to become the best God designed them to be. So seek constructive actions and thoughts. This is what we have been talking about. Whatever you do, let your motive be love and not anger. Learn to love without expecting any benefit. Extend yourself and grow.

Changing Attitudes

Written by Doreen Mukwena. Posted in Family Life Inspiration

fli logoHey talking about changing attitude. How do you change attitude when an offender consistently does the same thing that angers you even after you have told them. When this happens, its a great opportunity for growth on your part. Wear new lenses. Consider this. Does this person intentionally want to mess up, or is it because they are failing. If they are failing, instead of judge and be angry or be offended, why not think about other ways of responding that will help the offender and also help you make progress in being more positive and constructive. And what if the person is really wicked and spiteful? Do you get angry and also become spiteful? Remember negative emotions are not constructive on your part. Forgive all wrongdoing against you, and choose to ask God to help you to focus on the person God wants you to be. Instead of being drawn into negativity, focus on whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report, if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.' This is what the Bible says in Philippians 4:8. Some practical hints on changing your attitude:

  • accept that all people, including you are not perfect and so will not always do what is expected. 
  • accept that other people are different from you and will not always think the same things that you think, or act the same ways you expect to act.
  • accept that you have different personalities, upbringing and different world views and so you may not always agree on what to do.
  • proactively think about the good things that the same person does, even if you have to stretch matters. Make a list of at least 3 to 5 things. Choose to think that about the person, and begin to make those positive comments about them. What you say becomes real. Do this sincerely, without spite and negativity and you will see what a change it makes.

Relationship Change

Written by Doreen Mukwena. Posted in Family Life Inspiration

fli logoChange in a relationship takes one person who can determine to do positive actions that can bring a shift from the status quo. The greatest place to begin is to change your attitude from blame mentality and fault finding to acceptance. Recognise that blaming the other person is disempowering on your part. You can easily feel like a victim because you think it is all because of the other person that the relationship is failing. You cant change the person by blaming them or finding more of their faults. But accept that no one is perfect and that we are also at different stages of development, and so we see things differently. The bottom line is accept difference. The next stage is to choose to change the negative attitudes that flood your heart as a result of blaming the other person. Forgive them, and if it is difficulty to do so, you know, you can ask God Almighty to help you to forgive the other for the wrongs you feel have been done against you. But beyond that also open your heart for God to heal you of the hurts and the disappointments you have suffered. So many times, we end up blaming other people so much and not realise how extremely negative we have become in our attitudes to life, and to other people. SO at the end of the day, the critical change required is in you first. Once you begin to take steps to change, you will begin to see the situation and the other person differently. But the greatest work is in changing yourself. The greatest way of achieving sustainable change is giving your heart to God. In Romans 12:1-2 the Bible says, '.....present your bodies to God....., and be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind,......' This is a transformation which God does in you, by you allowing God's good and kind thoughts about yourself, about other people to permeate your heart and mind and take precedence over your hurt and wounded feelings and thoughts. Lets be working at this and see how we find ourselves this week.